I’ve been publishing for several years now writing for years (hard to believe my first shorts came out in 2012), and writing for a lot longer than that. I can no longer say that I’m new to this whole “writing” thing. I have more of a process now. I have fans. I pay taxes on royalties. I work with beta readers and send out ARCs and write this blog, and do all the other mechanisms that go along with publishing books that have nothing to do with the books themselves. I even set up a sister site with some other authors, hotwifebooks.com, and (marginally) run that. But my motivation to write, to create, is largely the same as it always has been. I do this for myself first and foremost, crafting stories that I enjoy, and then packaging them to share with you.
I’m not as prolific as some authors, nor as prolific as I wish I could be. I make time in my busy schedule to get these stories out—not to rake in the royalties, but just to get the stories out of my head and onto paper. I’ve got a full-time job (that I love), a family (that I love even more) and yes, I have other hobbies that take up my time. I do, occasionally, watch television. I own an Xbox. But I enjoy creating things, and having this outlet to explore these fantasies. Added bonus, I get to explore them with you guys.
This was going to be a post on process: how do I write, where do the ideas come from, blah blah. Maybe I’ll write that one day, if you guys and gals are interested. But the one point I want to keep from that post is that when I sit down to write a story, I have a rough concept in mind, usually a premise, and a few characters. I typically know the subgenre that I want to write in (and lets be honest, it usually involves some form of misbehaving wife or couple). And then I go. I let my imagination take me where it does. I try to be thoughtful to where my characters want to go and let them do what they want to do, and I always help guide them back to a happier resolution, but that’s it.
So even after all these years, I hope you guys know that I’m still the same author I was back in 2012, only more mature (hopefully) with more refined prose. I still have the thirst to explore my own fantasies, and still love sharing them with you all.
Here are some of my thoughts on Amazon’s new payout to authors under the KDP Select program. Word of warning, unless you’re an indie author, you probably don’t care about what I’m going to say as it’s pretty inside baseball.
And if you’re looking for the TLDR version of it, here it is: I think that if you’re a writer of longer-form books (novels and novellas), then getting paid per page is a better way to handle royalties than getting paid per borrow. (more…)
There’s a subset of the subgenre of naughty wife erotica that would like to see the wife punished for her misadventures. This variant is typically called “burn the bitch,” or BTB (not to be confused with the corporate lingo), usually features a cheating wife, and is almost always not my thing.
This’ll be short, but I felt like it needed to be addressed because these story lines are so tangential to the ones that I am drawn to, and I’ve gotten a few readers asking (or suggesting) I explore a BTB. Simply put, I won’t. To me, a happy ending is pretty damn important, both from a romantic perspective, but also from a literary one. I write about couples (and wives) who explore a naughty side of themselves that they didn’t know they had. The goal is always to strengthen their relationship by understanding themselves better. To write a story that ends in revenge runs contrary to what I’m trying to do as an author.
Let me be clear about a few things. Opinions are opinions, and I’m not judging those people who enjoy this kind of literature. Our desires are crazy and inexplicable things, and sexuality is even more enigmatic. Also, real life is messier than fiction. People cheat. People get hurt. People hurt their loved ones. And a lot of times, marriages end in divorce (or worse). I strive to write stories full of characters that (hopefully) feel real, and they go through their ups and downs, and things may even get dark, but in the end, I’m writing their destinies, and I feel like writing one that ends in tragedy would be a waste of time for me.
Again, this is only my opinion, and it’s one of many. But hopefully this’ll help set your expectations about my books.
Plagiarism and piracy are sad realities in the new world of self-publishing. I used to think that it was mostly limited to “entrepreneurs” stealing stories off free sites like Literotica and Eroticstories.com and selling them through KDP (see my blog post “Amazon pirates will probably steal your erotic stories“). Alas, the e-pirates have gotten bolder as the promise of more money hangs out there. Dark erotica author Skye Warren had her books ripped off directly from Amazon (they even used her author name in the title). And very recently, someone alerted me that Rediscovering Danielle had be “repurposed” in a hotwife anthology without credit given.
But this particular tale has a happy ending (we all love a good HEA, don’t we?).
My post on “erotica for men” is still one of the most visited pages on this site, a year and a half later. I think that it’s great that there’s a burgeoning interest in saucy tales told for men. It says something about how the genre is changing. Throw in the whole 50 Shades success story and we’ve got a brand new climate.
But as I’ve gained more experience in the world of commercial erotica, I’ve started to realize that the original question, posed so long ago by Ellora’s Cave, isn’t quite the right question. It’s not, “What is erotica for men?” Erotica for men, in large part, is the same as erotica for women: realistic characters in alluring situations that lead to explosive sexual encounters. Men and women’s tastes may vary, but I don’t think those tastes split along gender lines (more…)
Ask most guys and they’ll tell you: there’s just something about a sexy mom. This isn’t a new concept. Mrs. Robinson may have been a MILF before her time, but she was still a MILF. Hormonal teens have fantasized about their teachers and the mothers of their friends long before Stifler’s or Stacy’s hit pop culture. It’s given new life to aging porn stars. Brought the rise of shows, both real and desperate. Hell, an entire section of Cafe Press is devoted to MILF merch.
I’ve been known to write a few sexy mom themed stories. Moving Mrs. Mitchell and Naughty But Nice are direct examples of the MILF fantasy in erotica, but more often than not, when I’m thinking of a sexy female protagonist, I’ll gravitate toward someone with more maturity than less (Sarah in Leap, Danielle in Rediscovering Danielle). But what is it about the mom I’d like to fuck? What’s that something that most guys are drawn to?
“What I want is to be inside a woman’s head that knows what a man wants to read.”
I’ve seen this idea expressed a few times in the blog comments and in e-mails. There’s an audience of male readers looking for plots that appeal to them yet written from the woman’s perspective. I totally get this. It’s pretty sexy to read about a hot woman being naughty. It’s voyeurism at the most intimate level. It also gives us a different take on our old fantasies: a new perspective.
For me, a woman’s POV isn’t a necessary thing, but neither is a man’s. For me, the narrative is more important than the narrative voice. I want a well crafted plot and believable characters, told with the point-of-view that the story requires. Some stories just work better in third omni–or third limited, split between male and female characters–or male first person. Sometimes, I want to relate to the male character and the inner conflict that he’s going through.
But with the right story, it’s not just erotic to be “inside a woman’s head,” but it’s incredibly powerful. As guys who think about this stuff all the time, we know why wife watching is sexy (well, sort of), or why MFF is so hot. Turn it around, though, and write the female POV, and that story gets a new coat of paint.
If you’re looking for stories out there that would qualify as “erotica for men” and are written in a female voice, I’ve got a few recommendations. Kirsten McCurran’s “Eve’s Swinging Friends” series is a realistic take on neighborhood swinging, all told from Eve’s perspective. Also check out her longer book, Because He’s Watching, about how a woman handles her husband’s wife watching obsession. Interesting fact on that one: Because He’s Watching was a story written in parallel with me; I wrote the husband’s perspective, she wrote the wife’s. I wasn’t happy with how Ian’s story came out, so I locked it away. Maybe one day, I’ll dust it off and release it. Katie Cramer also writes “male-oriented” erotica from a female’s POV, but I’ve only read a couple of her books.
Oh, and here’s the thing: the majority of erotica out there is written (at least partially) from a woman’s perspective. The trick is to find one with the heat level that you want (i.e. a high one) and a theme that you’re drawn to. I’m always looking for a good read. If you’ve got some stories that fit here, please post your reqs.
Regardless of what you think of 50 Shades of Grey, it has helped the world get a little more comfortable with its sexuality—particularly in regards to bondage and Dom/sub topics. That crazy fantasy of being tied up that you thought you were weird for having? Millions of others have it, too.
Well, here’s another: millions of men fantasize about watching their wives with other men. It may not be as talked about as a guy’s love for girl-on-girl (“you’re such a guy!”), but for many, it’s as much a turn-on. Want evidence? Just take a look around. On Literotica, for example, the topic (categorized hilariously as “Loving Wives”) is one of the highest trafficked areas of the site. In hardcore porn (of the video variety), there’s a plethora of “hot wife” titles that deal with this theme. And if you don’t buy either of those, you’ve got a fellow fan in me. Something about the high stakes of the fantasy, coupled with the voyeuristic nature of it, is really evocative to me.
Point is, if the thought of your wife playing out of bounds with another man gets your heart racing (among other things), then fear not because you’re not alone. (more…)
If you’re not aware already, there have been a number of cases documenting piracy and plagiarism on the the Amazon marketplace (and probably iBookstore and Barnes & Noble, although I haven’t read specifics on that). My wife sent me an article the other day from Fast Company (via an NPR article), but I’ve read it before — I’ve even been a victim of it. Basically, these digital “entrepreneurs” steal already published content from free sites like literotica, throw a cover onto it, and upload it to the Kindle store as their own (via Kindle Direct Publishing, or KDP). Sometimes, they get discovered and the plagiarized content is removed. Often times, they fly under the radar. Either way, they’ve probably made some money off the hard work of others — money that the authors will never get back. (more…)
There’s a little truth in every bit of fiction. When we authors share our stories, we’re sharing a little bit of ourselves. Lucy V. Morgan, whose novella Beautiful Mess is now available [Kindle link, more at the bottom], volunteers a little more in this guest post. Her insight into the craft of romance and erotica is tough, honest, sometimes hard to swallow, but always invaluable. If you enjoy this glimpse, pick up Beautiful Mess–her funny, sexy, honest tone is infused throughout the prose, and you won’t be disappointed. [Also, that’s my cover design! /cheer]
I’ve always felt there was a strong link between sex and honesty. Not the performative aspects–the moves you choose, the partners you choose–but just the very act itself. Being seen naked, submitting (or dominating); being watched for any hint of arousal or desire. I like being honest. When you’re naked, you know where you stand.
Writing is a little bit like that. In order to write something compelling, something that resonates–even in a lighthearted way–you have to find a new method of expressing a truth. You have to acknowledge the secret little things people hide within themselves and say, I know of this. I’ve felt this too. That’s the point of connection, right there. (more…)