There’s a subset of the subgenre of naughty wife erotica that would like to see the wife punished for her misadventures. This variant is typically called “burn the bitch,” or BTB (not to be confused with the corporate lingo), usually features a cheating wife, and is almost always not my thing.
This’ll be short, but I felt like it needed to be addressed because these story lines are so tangential to the ones that I am drawn to, and I’ve gotten a few readers asking (or suggesting) I explore a BTB. Simply put, I won’t. To me, a happy ending is pretty damn important, both from a romantic perspective, but also from a literary one. I write about couples (and wives) who explore a naughty side of themselves that they didn’t know they had. The goal is always to strengthen their relationship by understanding themselves better. To write a story that ends in revenge runs contrary to what I’m trying to do as an author.
Let me be clear about a few things. Opinions are opinions, and I’m not judging those people who enjoy this kind of literature. Our desires are crazy and inexplicable things, and sexuality is even more enigmatic. Also, real life is messier than fiction. People cheat. People get hurt. People hurt their loved ones. And a lot of times, marriages end in divorce (or worse). I strive to write stories full of characters that (hopefully) feel real, and they go through their ups and downs, and things may even get dark, but in the end, I’m writing their destinies, and I feel like writing one that ends in tragedy would be a waste of time for me.
Again, this is only my opinion, and it’s one of many. But hopefully this’ll help set your expectations about my books.
The experimental site, eroticaformen.com is semi-offline for the time being. I’m not only giving it a new paint job, but I’m rebuilding the engine, so it’ll be a bit before you can catch this ride (okay, no more of the car metaphors).
Basically, in redoing the look and feel, I decided I didn’t like the data model I was using, so I decided to implement woocommerce to manage the books. It’s not turning into a bookstore or anything. You’ll still need to go to your favorite retailer to purchase, but this way, it’ll feel more like a shopping experience.
Downside is we’ll lose any comments. Upside? There weren’t very many anyway.
Full speed ahead! (Sorry.)
Let me start off by saying this: femdom isn’t my erotica genre of choice. In fact, it wasn’t even an erotica genre for consideration in my mind. Submitting to Her changed all of that.
Max Sebastian has outdone himself. I was a big fan of his first full-length novel, Anarchy of the Heart (which anyone who enjoys wife-swapping, wife-watching, or swinging stories should pick up right away). I’ll admit that I was a little disappointed when I learned that his next contribution would be a femdom romance. Man, was I wrong.
Submitting to Her follows Aiden Jones as his world gets upended by his new boss, Zoey Schoenberg. She shows the career bachelor what life is like with a dominant female planted squarely in it, and gives him a lesson in love along the way.
As he says on his blog, “while there is a lot of female-dominant sex in this book, some denial play, bondage and even some group sex, this is fairly light BDSM, fairly light femdom on the whole.” It’s femdom for beginners (or for those like me who might not be into anything heavier). What surprised me was that Submitting to Her struck a lot of the same chords that a wife-watching or mild cuckold story hits. It makes sense, though: you’ve got a strong female driving the story and a “weaker” (although not wimpy by any means) male setting his own desires aside for his lover. For this reason alone, I encourage anyone who’s a fan of Just Watch Me or Leap to pick this one up. You’ll be pleasantly surprised.
Anyone who knows me knows that romance is an important element in my erotica. Submitting to Her drives this home on all cylinders. This is a story of discovery, not just for Aiden and his acceptance of a submissive role, but of his capacity for love. As Aiden falls for Zoey, so does the reader (at least this reader). Both Zoey and Aiden grow a hell of a lot, both within themselves, and together as a couple. It’s a thrilling thing to watch unfold, and Max writes it masterfully.
Little known fact about me: I don’t read much erotica. When I’m not writing it, my tastes usually drift to more contemporary, non-erotic books. Max Sebastian is now officially one of the few exceptions to that rule. I couldn’t put this one down, and when it was over, it lingered with me like a happy memory. It was one of those books you want to race through, yet don’t want to end.
And for those of you coming here looking for “erotica for men,” I’d definitely bookmark this one (along with the above mentioned Anarchy of the Heart).
Thanks for sharing a glimpse into the world of Aiden and Zoey, Max, and thanks for opening my eyes to the eroticism of femdom.
Still not convinced? You can read the first of three parts of the book for free on Smashwords. Links below:
I’ve always enjoyed stories about erotic games–strip poker, an adult version of truth-or-dare, spin-the-bottle turned naughty, etc. More interestingly, based on the sales figures of All In: Strip Poker Done Right, I’m not alone. What’s not to like? It’s a great device for cutting through inhibitions and letting a group of “normal” people act crazy.
My post on “erotica for men” is still one of the most visited pages on this site, a year and a half later. I think that it’s great that there’s a burgeoning interest in saucy tales told for men. It says something about how the genre is changing. Throw in the whole 50 Shades success story and we’ve got a brand new climate.
But as I’ve gained more experience in the world of commercial erotica, I’ve started to realize that the original question, posed so long ago by Ellora’s Cave, isn’t quite the right question. It’s not, “What is erotica for men?” Erotica for men, in large part, is the same as erotica for women: realistic characters in alluring situations that lead to explosive sexual encounters. Men and women’s tastes may vary, but I don’t think those tastes split along gender lines (more…)
Ask most guys and they’ll tell you: there’s just something about a sexy mom. This isn’t a new concept. Mrs. Robinson may have been a MILF before her time, but she was still a MILF. Hormonal teens have fantasized about their teachers and the mothers of their friends long before Stifler’s or Stacy’s hit pop culture. It’s given new life to aging porn stars. Brought the rise of shows, both real and desperate. Hell, an entire section of Cafe Press is devoted to MILF merch.
I’ve been known to write a few sexy mom themed stories. Moving Mrs. Mitchell and Naughty But Nice are direct examples of the MILF fantasy in erotica, but more often than not, when I’m thinking of a sexy female protagonist, I’ll gravitate toward someone with more maturity than less (Sarah in Leap, Danielle in Rediscovering Danielle). But what is it about the mom I’d like to fuck? What’s that something that most guys are drawn to?
“What I want is to be inside a woman’s head that knows what a man wants to read.”
I’ve seen this idea expressed a few times in the blog comments and in e-mails. There’s an audience of male readers looking for plots that appeal to them yet written from the woman’s perspective. I totally get this. It’s pretty sexy to read about a hot woman being naughty. It’s voyeurism at the most intimate level. It also gives us a different take on our old fantasies: a new perspective.
For me, a woman’s POV isn’t a necessary thing, but neither is a man’s. For me, the narrative is more important than the narrative voice. I want a well crafted plot and believable characters, told with the point-of-view that the story requires. Some stories just work better in third omni–or third limited, split between male and female characters–or male first person. Sometimes, I want to relate to the male character and the inner conflict that he’s going through.
But with the right story, it’s not just erotic to be “inside a woman’s head,” but it’s incredibly powerful. As guys who think about this stuff all the time, we know why wife watching is sexy (well, sort of), or why MFF is so hot. Turn it around, though, and write the female POV, and that story gets a new coat of paint.
If you’re looking for stories out there that would qualify as “erotica for men” and are written in a female voice, I’ve got a few recommendations. Kirsten McCurran’s “Eve’s Swinging Friends” series is a realistic take on neighborhood swinging, all told from Eve’s perspective. Also check out her longer book, Because He’s Watching, about how a woman handles her husband’s wife watching obsession. Interesting fact on that one: Because He’s Watching was a story written in parallel with me; I wrote the husband’s perspective, she wrote the wife’s. I wasn’t happy with how Ian’s story came out, so I locked it away. Maybe one day, I’ll dust it off and release it. Katie Cramer also writes “male-oriented” erotica from a female’s POV, but I’ve only read a couple of her books.
Oh, and here’s the thing: the majority of erotica out there is written (at least partially) from a woman’s perspective. The trick is to find one with the heat level that you want (i.e. a high one) and a theme that you’re drawn to. I’m always looking for a good read. If you’ve got some stories that fit here, please post your reqs.
Regardless of what you think of 50 Shades of Grey, it has helped the world get a little more comfortable with its sexuality—particularly in regards to bondage and Dom/sub topics. That crazy fantasy of being tied up that you thought you were weird for having? Millions of others have it, too.
Well, here’s another: millions of men fantasize about watching their wives with other men. It may not be as talked about as a guy’s love for girl-on-girl (“you’re such a guy!”), but for many, it’s as much a turn-on. Want evidence? Just take a look around. On Literotica, for example, the topic (categorized hilariously as “Loving Wives”) is one of the highest trafficked areas of the site. In hardcore porn (of the video variety), there’s a plethora of “hot wife” titles that deal with this theme. And if you don’t buy either of those, you’ve got a fellow fan in me. Something about the high stakes of the fantasy, coupled with the voyeuristic nature of it, is really evocative to me.
Point is, if the thought of your wife playing out of bounds with another man gets your heart racing (among other things), then fear not because you’re not alone. (more…)
This could probably be part of a series: how to write male heroes in erotica that’s directed at men. I certainly have plenty of opinions on it, but I’m not feeling quite as ambitious this Sunday evening, so I’ll focus on one particular tip to get us started: if you’re writing for a male audience, don’t make your male hero an asshole. I’ve noticed this mistake in more than a few places, so if you think this tip is obvious, I’d say it bears repeating.
This blog post actually started as a commentary on the alpha male and how I don’t think he works in male-oriented erotic stories, but my reasoning was flawed and my definition of an alpha too narrow (basically, I was equating “alpha male” with “jerk,” and while this is often the case, it’s not always). So the new thesis statement is that the male consumer of erotica probably isn’t going to like your story if they don’t like your protagonist. Let’s analyze why. (more…)